More Self Love

I’ve got a new shirt for sale! It’s inspired by by 4 year old niece Lucy.

I’ve got a big soft spot for my niece Lucy. She is HILARIOUS. She make me laugh all the time. She’s so mild tempered and she’s such a happy and cheerful little girl.

One day, we were making pancakes at my mom’s. We were telling her each ingredient as we added it. She’d say: “Flour? I LOVE flour!” “Baking powder? I LOVE baking powder!” She is very into LOVE – she LOVES everything.

We have a fun little tradition. I’ll admit, my mama heart hurts a little bit that I don’t have a little girl’s hair to braid every day. As long as Lucy has had hair long enough to do something with, every time I see her the first thing we do is her hair. She has the most beautiful, long, thick hair. She sits so nicely and patiently. I let her pick out her clips and accessories.

When I’m all done with her hair, we always do a BIG production and parade around the house to show all the aunts, uncles and cousins. We all gush and tell her how beautiful she is. Last time she said “I know” with a great big smile. Then she ran off, bear crawled around the house exclaiming she was a beautiful horse.

Later in the day, she came out and interrupted our adult conversation to exclaim, “I am BEAUTIFUL!” and again later to say “I am SO PRETTY!” and she really is. Not just because she has beautiful blue eyes or because she has the best hair I’ve ever seen, but because she exudes joy and truly LOVES herself. She looks in the mirror and sees all of the things that make her beautiful. I hope she never loses that. Oh man, I so hope she never loses that.

With Valentines day around the corner, I was racking my brain for a new shirt idea. I used to HATE Valentines day in high school. I would call it “singles awareness day” and would sulk the week before and the week after as all of my friends celebrated with their boyfriends. I only ever had a boyfriend one year on Valentines day and that was days before he dumped me.

Valentines day is actually turning into something I really enjoy, not because I’m married and have someone to celebrate it with, but because there is a lot more to Valentines day now than just boyfriends. A lot of towns/shops host “Galentines” events for women to celebrate with the “gals” (best friends) in their lives. I think that’s pretty cool!

More than anything, over the past few years, I’ve gone from a place of self loathing and hating every single inch of my body to a place where I’m so proud of who I’ve grown into. I love myself. I want to honor myself and my body. I want to look in the mirror just like Lucy does and appreciate all of the beautiful things about me.

I love my blue eyes from my Father and I love that I’ve handed them down to Carver.

I’ve even grown to love how I look without any makeup. I’ve spent years battling acne and I love my complexion now, even with a few scars.

My hair does exactly what I want it to. It’s thick and holds a curl so well.

My chubby cheeks that I used to hate are unique. I got them from my Mom and she got them from her Mom. Women get fillers to make their cheek bones look like mine.

My hands and feet are HUGE – something else that used to embarrass me but now I think it’s a really interesting feature about me – how many women can say they wear men’s size 12 shoes?

I’ve got loose skin and saggy boobs. I’ve got a tum that I haven’t grown to love as much as I’d like but I can appreciate the fact that it’s brought me two of my absolute favorite humans.

I’m pretty funny. I’m a great writer. I’m a great mom. I’m a good daughter. I’m smart. I can do anything I put my mind to.

So why is it more socially acceptable to make a post about all of my insecurities? It’s more socially acceptable for me to say, “Ugh, I hate my boobs. I want a boob job” or “I need to lose 15 more pounds” or “My fat ass can’t fit into that!” or “I’m not smart enough to do that.” When’s the last time you’ve seen a woman list the things she loves about her appearance like I just did?

I even felt weird writing it, I hesitated to say that I’m great at something, maybe I should just write that I’m only good at it, I don’t want people to think I’m too high on myself.

We all need a little more self love. We all need to look at ourselves like Lucy looks at herself, before the world told us we weren’t perfect or didn’t fit their mold or meet their standards.

This Valentines day, make yourself your Valentine. Tell yourself all of the things you love about yourself. Give yourself a little more self love. With that, I introduce to you my newest design to hit the Etsy shop, more self love.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1166260653/more-self-love-unisex-long-sleeve

With a toddler’s option too (a little bit of a brighter red vs. a burgundy red) modeled by my niece Georgia!

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1166180719/more-self-love-toddler-girl-valentines

I’ve also spent some time restocking the popular quilting tees and sweatshirts! If you’ve been waiting for the Quiltmaker hoodie restock – the time is now! Here they are! FULLY STOCKED! (finally! whew!)

https://www.etsy.com/shop/kalissageorgia?ref=shop_sugg

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4 Comments

  1. Bonnie S. Harrell
    January 27, 2022 / 12:46 am

    Is the shirt only available in long sleeve? I really love it!

    • thepinkshoelaces
      Author
      January 27, 2022 / 1:09 am

      Yes! Just long sleeve for now.

  2. Carolyn
    January 27, 2022 / 10:42 pm

    She’s adorable, as I is you shirt. I personally think singles awareness day would be a hit too

  3. Nancy
    January 28, 2022 / 11:51 pm

    Love the post and shirt!! I have struggled with self-love my entire life. I am 64 and have made some progress with that, but with my past and the hateful comments from my mother and family is what damaged me. Hopefully, I can come up with money for a shirt, it is really wonderful and the color is so appropriate.

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