It’s Okay to Grieve.

In the past two weeks, we have all lost something.

Some have lost our independence.

Some have lost our autonomy.

Some have lost income.

Some have cancelled weddings.

Some have lost trust in their health.

Some feel betrayed by their bodies.

Some have lost a loved one.

Some have lost their sense of security.

Some have lost their sense of control.

Just because you still have income, doesn’t mean you have to be grateful for your job during this time.

Just because you have more time with your kids, doesn’t mean you can’t grieve the loss of your job or income or investments.

Just because you are healthy, doesn’t mean you can’t feel angry or upset with cancelled plans.

Just because you have this time off, doesn’t mean it has to be productive.

Give yourself permission to cry.

Give yourself permission to feel angry and frustrated.

Give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you are feeling.

Just because someone has it worse than you, doesn’t mean you can’t feel sad.

Just because someone has it better than you, doesn’t mean you can’t feel happy.

Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re overreacting or under-reacting.

Don’t let anyone tell you “you should be grateful.”

Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t find joy in these moments. Don’t let anyone tell you you have to.

If it feels better to watch the news and know all there is to know about this terrible virus, do it.

If it feels better to shut your phone and computer off for the day because you can’t read one more post about the virus, do it.

If you’re so anxious you can’t focus, you aren’t alone.

If you’re so angry you need to take a time out, you aren’t alone.

If you cried on your way to work today, you aren’t alone.

If you don’t know what the big deal is, you aren’t alone.

If you took your frustration out on an undeserving person in a moment of weakness, you aren’t alone.

Give yourself grace. Give others grace.

We don’t know how to do this. But we don’t know how to do this together.

So laugh if it feels good. Cry if it feels right.

Turn the TV on and let the kids eat hot dogs for every meal.

We are all doing the best we can in uncharted territories.

We are all doing the best we can to find the light in every day.

We are all deserving of second chances to make things right.

Most importantly, feel all the feelings.

It is okay to be scared.

It is okay to be angry.

It is okay to be anxious.

It is okay to grieve the loss of normalcy.

It is okay to grieve.

Kalissa

10 thoughts on “It’s Okay to Grieve.

  1. Roxanne says:

    There is a lot of poetry in what you said and how you said it.
    I also just read the Walk To Remember post and it was lovely,
    Carver is learning so much and will remember these walks in
    so many ways. Hugs!

  2. Sheri B says:

    Thank you for all the things to think about. I would like to add it is okay to reach out to friends and relatives you haven’t seen for a while.. It can be comforting.

  3. Donna says:

    Thank you from me also. Every once in a while, I am scared. For me – for my kids, for my grand kids. There are a lot of what ifs. I don’t like that I’m afraid. And I can’t show it.
    But, thank you that as a reminder, it’s ok to be…..
    Love and prayers

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