“Carbs are bad for you. “
“You need carbs.”
“Don’t eat bread.”
Me: But Oprah eats bread on Weight Watchers! Maybe I’ll try weight watchers…
“Don’t restrict yourself.”
“Bananas have the most carbs.”
“In fact, don’t eat fruit at all. They are full of sugar.”
“Nothing processed. EVER.”
“Potatoes are so bad.”
“You really need a supplement.”
“Corn is too starchy.”
“EAT MORE PROTEIN!”
“Do NOT add low calorie sweetener to your coffee.”
“You can eat eggs, but only the whites. The yolks have all the bad stuff.”
“ACTUALLY, the yolks are good for you.”
“Keto is the BEST you feel so great after you feel absolutely horrible for 2 weeks.”
“Keto is NOT something you can maintain long term.”
“Gluten is the reason you have acne!”
“CUT ALL DAIRY and your skin will never look better!”
“Intermittent fasting is best – I only eat between the hours of 1 pm and 9 pm.”
“Cauliflower really isn’t the best veggie for you…it is so starchy.”
“Don’t even try to lose weight unless you’re drinking your body weight in ounces every day.”
“Why even diet if you don’t cleanse first?”
“Add butter to your coffee but NEVER to your food!”
“Atkins diet is the way to go!”
“You MUST exercise 30 minutes every day. If you don’t, you won’t lose weight.”
“If you can add spinach to it, do it.”
“Are you on a probiotic?”
“Almond milk isn’t REAL milk! DRINK REAL MILK!”
Eat as soon as you wake up in the morning to get your metabolism going and then eat 6 small meals throughout the day to keep it going.”
“Only eat 2 meals a day. Let your metabolism rest between meals.”
“Frozen yogurt tastes just as good as ice cream!”
I. Just. Want. To. Be. At. A. Healthy. Weight. And. Maintain. IT.
Where do I start when every step is the wrong way according to someone?
Where do I start when my life is not the same from week to week.
Where do I start when I don’t even have groceries because I’ve worked the last 6 days straight?
Where do I start when I’m supposed to be making “me time” to get to the gym and then people tell me I’m not home with my kids enough?
Where do I start when the lettuce goes bad before I can eat it?
Where do I start when I hate chicken breasts?
Where do I start when I don’t want to be that girl not eating cake at the birthday party because she’s on a diet?
Where do I start when nothing in my life is consistent?
Where do I start when I’m scared of falling into the diet culture?
Where do I start when I just polished off a pan of brownies?
Where do I start when McDonalds is so damn convenient?
Where do I start when my hormones are still out of wack from having a baby?
Where do I start when I have 5 unread messages in my inbox from my “friends” who want me to buy their magic weight loss product?
Where do I start when I’ve already tried hiring a personal trainer, tried noom, logged my calories on myfitnesspal, counted my macros, bought a ninja smoothie maker, got new shoes to run in, tried the bikini body guide, swore off fried food and alcohol for the month, installed and uninstalled the weight watchers app twice, weighed myself for the third time today and I’m just still the same old size with the same old habits and I’m bored and ice cream sounds delicious?
WHERE DO I START WHEN I HAVE THIS MANY EXCUSES?
And then on the opposite end of the spectrum are people who would shame me for not feeling confident and comfortable in my own body and for wanting to change.
“You’re perfect the way you are!”
“Diet culture is the devil!”
“Make peace with your body!”
“Being thinner doesn’t make you happier!”
“If you don’t love your fat self you’ll never love your skinnier self!”
I legitimately want to lose weight. I want to be healthier. I don’t know where to start. I’m not looking for suggestions. Don’t message me with your diet fad multilevel marketing scheme. I’m just frustrated. I think a lot of people are. We just want the truth and we want to know what works for forever.
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