Friedman Fam Update – January 2023

It’s been a minute since I’ve given a life update and there are many reasons for that.

First of all, I am on the struggle bus. I feel like I’m swimming through pudding. I feel like I can’t get caught up, I feel like my attention is being pulled in 80 different directions, my plate is very full right now. Someone told me the transition from 2 kids to 3 kids is the worst and holy cow, I’m FEELING it.

I’ve been so overwhelmed that Craig even took a day off work last week to watch the kids so I could sleep after night shift (Mom had her cancer appointments), he took the dog to the vet, cleaned house, and was just there for me. I didn’t even have to ask him to. I’m so thankful for him.

I’m back to work now (officially), I have been since the first weekend in January. I don’t know how I ever worked three shifts in a week, let alone when I used to work 6 shifts in 7 days. 2 shifts is already too much for me to manage. Night shift is harder, napping before work is harder, everything just got harder.

The kids have had some colds and missed some school, the kids have had snow days, Gannon has had Iowa City follow ups, Mom has had cancer follow ups, we are working on taxes and getting our finances lined up, it’s just. been. wild.

Many people have asked how Gannon is. Gannon is wonderful. Gannon is more prone to choking, I would say we have 3-4 choking episodes per week but beyond that, you’d never be able to tell how sick he was just a month ago. He can (and does) eat EVERYTHING. Gannon did regress a little over the month he was really sick. Gannon was super independent, could zip his coat, get dressed, buckle his car seat, he was doing AWESOME. Now it’s really difficult to get him to do things on his own. It’s something we are working on.

Anders turned 4 months, he’s started rolling over. Carver has really matured since Gannon got sick. He’s been SUCH a good helper and big brother. I can rely on Carver to help me out when things go haywire. He’s just been wonderful. Craig is the best teammate I could ask for. He’s just been there for me the past month. I picked a good one guys.

Craig and I are trying something new, we don’t keep alcohol in the house. No beer, no seltzers, nada. We drink if it’s a special occasion or maybe we go out with friends but other than that, no alcohol at home. We both felt like we were mis using it as a coping mechanism during stressful times. It’s cut down a ton on our grocery bill. Craig says he feels better but I don’t notice a huge difference in how I feel. We both like to have a little carbonation around 1700 – a sparkling water does it for me and then Craig has an non-alcoholic beer and that seems to satisfy the craving. Craig has ALSO kicked his 2 energy drink per day habit (YAY!) and we are now coffee nuts. Lots of changes in the New Year.

And why not START A LAUNDRY ROOM REMODEL WHILE WE ARE AT IT! For real guys, we are GUTTING our laundry room to the studs as of today at about 11 AM. The contractors will be in and out this week and hopefully its a quick and painless process from there. I’ll keep ya’ll updated.

The good news is, I’m in therapy. I see my counselor on Monday. I’ve got good support. I’ve got coping mechanisms. I’ve got a coffee date with my friend Gabe on Monday, I don’t work until next weekend so I’ve got some time to turn this all around. Don’t worry too much about me just yet.

Thanks for checking in, for all the messages and comments wondering where I was. You can keep up with me on a more day to day basis over on instagram – @kalissageorgia

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6 Comments

  1. Joyce Joseph
    January 26, 2023 / 1:52 am

    As a mother of four, grandmother of five, and a hopeful great grandmother, I am here to testify that you will make it. I am overwhelmed by the amount of hours you put in on a weekly basis ! And am so glad you found a counselor.

    You are an excellent mother and wife , someday you will look back and pat yourself on the back. And, yes, Craig is a keeper !
    Take care of yourself every day, even a little. It will get easier , but slowly. All the best. Joy

  2. Hedy Hahn
    January 26, 2023 / 4:03 pm

    Many times I’ve wanted to say Easy Does It to you, but didn’t. You are incredibly lucky to have such a good husband and a great family. You are young and don’t have to do everything now. Just relax and enjoy life as it comes. The no alcohol at home is a good idea. Take care.

  3. Susan the Farm Quilter
    January 26, 2023 / 8:31 pm

    Considering all you have had on your plate since Anders arrived, you are doing great! Between Facebook and your mom, I keep up on what’s going on in your life. Take your time – 2022 ended rough and 2023 hasn’t been a snooze-fest! We’ll be here when you have time for us, but we should be way down on your list of priorities in your life!! Your heath and your family are what is important…put your time where it counts!

  4. January 26, 2023 / 8:48 pm

    It’s certainly understandable how you came to be riding the struggle bus with all you and your family have been through in the last month, Kalissa. So glad that you and Craig have made some positive lifestyle changes and that you have support systems in place. Wishing you well!!

  5. Kate
    January 26, 2023 / 11:09 pm

    Always good to hear you are okay. You have a busy life and sometimes I’m reminded what it was like having three little ones and working (only part-time) and all. It is so wonderful that you have such good support all around you. Keep up the good work!

  6. Charline Blair
    January 27, 2023 / 4:17 am

    I am so sorry you are having to go through all of this. It is a blessing to have such a wonderful, caring, loving husband. That makes a big difference in your life. My prayers go out for you and your family and also for your mom. Keep the faith.

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