An Apology…

When my siblings were younger, they were misbehaving at a quilt shop. Some of my readers may know Mary from Country Threads. She had a gorgeous quilt shop that had a big barn and some animals and it was like an adventure every time we went.

Well mom was shopping away with the three oldest kids (it was guaranteed several hours every time we went) so Kelli Buck and Kayla were outside running around and playing and chasing and one of them SCREAMED at the top of their lungs – not for any particular reason other than they were just goofing off and playing tag.

This sent the quilt store into a frenzy and the women all ran outside to see if they were okay just to find that they were just goofing off.

Mom made them all write an apology note and it was actually printed in their news letter! ?

Mom was VERY big into apology notes and I am now too.

Here is one Carver “wrote” to grandma Joey when he was just 2… “Dear Mama Joey, sorry I vomited down your back this morning. Love, Carver.”

or this one for my dad after we exposed him to influenza and he was on chemo therapy: “Roses are red, violets are blue, sorry I’m the reason you’re on tamiflu. Love, Carver.”

Well, we found ourselves in another situation that needed to be addressed the other day. I went to meet Carver off of the bus and he was taking FOREVER. The doors were open and Carver wasn’t coming for a good minute before I saw the bus driver have to park, unbuckle and go to the back of the bus. I wondered if something was wrong, maybe Carver wasn’t on the bus, where could he be?

Another whole minute goes by when finally, a disheveled Carver makes his way down off the bus steps with an unzipped coat, carrying his hat and mittens, his back pack hanging off of him.

I gave him the 3rd degree as soon as he got in the house – what happened, what took so long, why did The bus driver have to stop the bus to help you.

It turns out another kid on the bus told Carver to take all of his cot, hat, gloves, snow pants, EVERYTHING off on the bus! Carver only has a 15 minute bus ride, if he was hot he could have waited. When the bus stopped, he didn’t realize he was home already and had to start the process of getting dressed all over again! It took so long the the bus driver had to go help him to move things along!

We talked about how that could have caused an accident and that Jim (his bus driver) has plenty of other things to worry about and other kids to watch that Carver has to stay dressed on the bus. We felt an apology was in order. We knew what to do:

“Is there anything else you want to add to your apology?”

“Yes, tell Jim I love him.”

and we haven’t had any problems since 🙂 Thanks for reading friends!



  1. Ellie
    February 1, 2021 / 1:19 pm

    You’re a good mama!

  2. laurie a
    February 1, 2021 / 1:23 pm

    And this is why kiddos are so cute, it’s the only way they survive. I love the way he writes his name.

  3. Susan the Farm Quilter
    February 2, 2021 / 1:29 am

    Apologies and thank you notes are an essential skill to learn!! We all need to write more of both! I’ll go write one now!!

    • thepinkshoelaces
      February 8, 2021 / 4:01 am

      Did you do it Susan? 🙂

  4. Donna
    February 2, 2021 / 12:28 pm

    My mom and dad were also big on apologies and thank you notes. Apologies in person, no matter how embarrassing. We tried to pass that along to our kids and and them to theirs.

  5. Kimberly Clark
    February 2, 2021 / 3:39 pm

    Oh my goodness! What a sweet story! I think that just made my day!

  6. Mary Etherington
    February 5, 2021 / 12:24 am

    Oh, Kalissa, I remember that day well! Any business owner would have a heart attack thinking a kid had gotten injured on their property! Oh, the possibilities of lawsuits and medical issues are enough to give one palpitations – haha! It’s so sweet that I now know you little kids as adults and you’re raising great kids!

    • thepinkshoelaces
      February 8, 2021 / 4:00 am

      That’s awesome Mary! thanks for the shout out on your blog 🙂

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