A Sad Halloween…

Craig and I LOVE Halloween.

We have gone ALL OUT every year ever since we have been dating.

One year we were Captain and Coke
The next year was Craig’s turn to pick and we went as Garth and Wayne from Wayne’s World!
The year Carver was born we were Jack and Rose from the Titanic (that’s my mom’s wedding dress by the way)
We got FIRST PLACE the year we went as Jack and Rose – we immediately invested our winnings back into the bar in the form of alcoholic beverages…
We went as Buzz Light year and Little Bo Peep in 2018.
We got honorable mention at the costume contest.

This year, we won’t be going out. I worked last weekend when most of the partying was happening. This is Craig’s first year as a farmer and I’m coming to a sad realization that we probably won’t celebrate Halloween much together unless it rains.

He’s been pulling late late nights in the combine. It has been a shuffle between kids, grandmas, babysitters, and work the past 3 weeks. I foresee the next three weeks being the same unless Iowa gets that snow storm they’ve been talking about.

I’ve been working like a mad woman lately and I work today on Halloween. I worked last weekend while trick or treating has been going on in the local communities.

Carver hasn’t wanted to dress up for Halloween yet. Each year we get him a costume and he has thrown a fit and wouldn’t wear it. This year we *might* be able to talk him into it.

Carver had a bad experience with Halloween last year. He was having SO MUCH fun handing out candy at my mom’s house while I was at work. A big kid came and had a scary mask. Carver was doing just fine until scary mask kid was reaching into the bucket and yelled “BOO” REALLY loud at Carver. He was done handing out candy after that 🙁

Even in September we were asking him what he wanted to be for Halloween and was nearly in tears saying, “Me no like Halloween!”

So now Halloween is kind of sad. The mommy guilt is HEAVY. We won’t be celebrating much this year. No pumpkin patches or trick or treating for us. I hope we can get to a time in our lives where we don’t have to work as much and can celebrate these little holidays more. This is just a season of life for us.

In the meantime, the mommy guilt is HEAVY and I so miss going out with Craig and being silly and having fun.

Blah. What a sappy blog post! I’ll get over it. Thanks for reading.

I hope your Hallweens are funner than mine! (that was NOT proper grammar by the way)



  1. Linda in NE
    October 31, 2019 / 2:32 pm

    It’s such a shame that some bigger kid had to spoil Halloween for Carver before he even had a chance to really get into it. Happy Halloween to all of you!

  2. Carolyn Sullivan
    October 31, 2019 / 2:53 pm

    It’s his age…. he will get into it soon enough.

  3. Jean
    October 31, 2019 / 5:39 pm

    “To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven.”-Ecclesiastes 3:1

    -Jean ❤

  4. L
    October 31, 2019 / 7:11 pm

    The weather is so bad here in Ontario, Canada for the next 3 days that many communities are postponing it until Friday night or the weekend. We live in a rural area and have never had trick or treaters. We have friends who live in a big city and last Sat. there was a community Halloween dress up and candy given out by the homes. Last night the kids dressed up and went to the mall where candy was given out by stores and today, in school, there is lots of activities happening. They will not be going out tonight. Sometimes, I laid the mommy guilt on myself about things for my kids, but turns out they really didn’t care. It was what I thought they wanted and should have and do but I quickly learned – find out what they need and want and then decide if it is doable and safe. Don’t beat yourself up. You do the best you can with the time you have and with what you know at that point in time. You are doing great.

  5. Mary Etherington
    November 1, 2019 / 1:10 am

    I have never cared much for Halloween myself but I feel bad for you missing all the fun that you enjoy. Shame on the big kid who startled Carver – he’ll grow out of it.

  6. LaNan Eldridge
    November 1, 2019 / 1:33 am

    I hope Carver will have a better Halloween in the years ahead. Halloween is fun for me as I make our grandchildren their costumes. (I made their mommies and daddies so I’ve continued my tradition!). Their smiles are priceless!

  7. Claire Lonergan
    November 2, 2019 / 11:57 pm

    hi you, Gannon and Craig could always dress up and show Carver how much fun Hallowe’en is. When he sees how much fun you are having he may want to join in, maybe not with a costume, just by being himself. And, if he doesn’t like it as he gets older, that is ok…..no reflection on you or Craig

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    • thepinkshoelaces_nobzq1
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